Misfits Celebrating Women's Month: I owe myself everything.

Up first this week is Miss Zukiswa Ngcemu, thank you for letting me share your story queen. 

 

1.  The last place I would go, is the place that burnt me the most.  History is the greatest teacher but, I have no business going back whatsoever.

2. I am done with the hurt, pain, brokenness, self-doubt and expectations, I owe myself everything.

 

3. It has taught me that I`m a winner, and a warrior.  Through the fear, uncertainty and doubt I have victored and still soldier on in following my dreams and aspirations.

It has also taught me that friends might not share the same DNA as yours, but they are family who stand by you through thick and thin and help you unburden your shoulders with things you wouldn`t necessarily share with your family. They are the extended arm that gives love, support, comfort, truth with a bit of crazy.

Family has and will always have me rooted in my true origins, keep me grounded with love that is pure coupled with sanity and insanity.

Life is a special gift, that will serve you or not, but remains the only source that provides us opportunity and a pathway for our aspirations. Life is beautiful, never easy nor fair. Life has also taught me that it’s my choice whether I choose to live or exist.

 

4. I would tell that young girl to live on middle lane of life, never slow down or move too fast for anyone unless its solely for herself. I would also tell her that her dreams are valid and should never let anyone tell her otherwise, that life will serve her what she doesn`t deserve and deny her what should be hers but should never allow those things to deter her.  I would tell her to stay true to herself, especially spiritually and should stay away from things that rob her of her peace. 

I expected to be a millionaire, who has travelled the world, happily married with two kids and every fantasy that was sold to me as a teenager.  Well life had other plans and also some of the choices that I have made. As I wake to see another day I create and work towards my own goals, fantasies, dreams and aspirations. My dreams would make your eyes pop, a put one foot forward every day and some days i barely move, but I know that one day it will all be possible. 

 

5.  I believe all women around the world are made of steel with strands of silk, precious stones and fragrances, I would tell women to continue with being fighters, especially for and in support for the all the wrongs thrown to her and other women by society.  That we as women need our own "bro code" that we should never break. That we will conquer all the adversities we are currently faced with and that they should continue drawing strength, nurturing beings, love and selflessness from their respective sources.